How to Deepen Friendships

It's not about perfection, it's about presence. Friendships work well when you regularly experience life together.

Go to Events Together

Friendships work well when you regularly experience life together. The 'coffee catch-up' isn't usually friendship building, because you've just exchanged info. You build friendships when you've lived something together, an interesting event, an activity that leaves a memory. Find people who will experience life with you. Do stuff regularly with people. It's as simple as doing things together.

Be Emotionally Present

The trick is Meta-Communication. You don't have to "dump" the emotion; you just narrate the fact that you're feeling it while it's happening.

Sharing what is arising in the moment. This builds intimacy.

Share Something Surprising

Share something surprising. Get other people to share surprising stories with you. That's all you need for an interesting conversation. It doesn't even need to be that deep; it just needs to make you think of something you hadn't considered before.

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